The Successful Family Legacy Online Seminar

WHAT IS IT: The Successful Family Legacy Online Seminar
HOW MUCH WILL IT COST? $140
WHEN IS IT? The webinar series will begin Thursday 27th March 2014 - 6pm – 7:30pm PDT, and will recur every Thursday 6pm – 7:30pm PDT thereafter for 13 weeks

WHERE IS IT? From the comfort of participant’s home or office – you just need a computer For more information, I have attached a flyer for the said event, or you can share this short video on how leaving a family legacy can help mend broken family relationships. http://youtu.be/S8UaNYVU1RQ Moreover, we’re giving out massive freebies for the FIRST 100 registrants, who will receive: A copy of my book The Firstborn Son: a Curse, a Gift, or a Calling, valued at US$ 15.99 Audio CD of “Is Your Family Name a Recognizable Brand?“, valued at $9.00 1-year access to our “Family Legacy Community” membership site & post seminar resources, valued at $108.00 A 30-minute personal consultation time with me

 Registration link: http://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-successful-family-legacy-seminar-online-webinars-13-weekly-sessions-tickets-10547360439?aff=JW1234 

Part 2 of One Writer's Journey Through Domestic Violence - Marilyn Redmond

Part One of One Writer's Journey Through Domestic Violence with Marilyn Redmond

There is a Solution to Domestic Violence by Marilyn Redmond

On Thanksgiving in 1984, I was so distraught that I took my cache of Valium prescribed by my psychiatrist at the time and left with no thoughts of returning home. Living in domestic violence with its abuse and growing up in domestic violence that continued the cruelty made my life hell. When I attempted suicide, six angels came giving me information and instructions to stop taking the medication. Today, I would say spiritual help came.

Several years later, the night before returning home from a short trip from a Canadian Resort my life changed forever. After three weeks of no alcohol, my husband resumed drinking and went into temper tantrums, again. After dinner and his evening of tirades, he decided we would go home instead of waiting to check out in the morning. It was around 3 o’clock in the morning as we were heading south from Harrison Hot Springs in Canada to the United States border.

His rage was vindictive as he drove erratically down the middle of the road weaving from side to side. “God please help me, I really don’t want to die”, was my prayer. Within a few minutes, my husband pulled off the road. That lasted for the rest of the night.

Many different types of answers came into my life, quite quickly. At the time, I did not understand about being spiritual. I seemed to know the new opportunities for healing, counseling, and classes that appeared as if from nowhere were to help me. Through therapy and appropriate programs and their assistance, I began seeing that I had lived my life from fear. It was time to shift to a loving basis for my life.

Throughout my early recovery, I learned what I did to perpetuate the circumstances.  They were usually from my subconscious emotions of my wounded childhood. I had been trying to protect myself on an emotional level.   In meditation, I was told profound information to assist my inner growth and maturity.

Over time, I understood his deep pains from his traumatic childhood. We had attracted each other because of similar childhood backgrounds−alcoholism/prescription addictions, mental illness, sex addiction, rage, and domestic violence. Still living at home with my husband, while I was trying to grow up was thorny.

One evening, during one of his tirades, he dropped me on cement and broke my tailbone. Another evening during an outburst of rage, he chased me around the house and cornered me in our son’s bedroom; I knew I would become mincemeat and was terrified. Time stopped as angels held him like a statue just a few feet from me. A silent voice inside said to say, “God forgive him as he knows not what he does” and I added “God bless him”.

You cannot attack love. It is the fear sent out and then a retaliation of fear returning that escalates into violence. You have to stop playing the game of passive-aggressiveness. I stopped participating in the struggle. I learned that the lesson is if you send love to someone, that person will not attack you. As I began to replace my selfish ways and self-centeredness of protection with unselfish love, I was not attacked again.

This change in focus was increased by cleaning out my emotional inner past maltreatment, fears, and resentments through co-dependent treatment, meditation, and support groups. It was necessary to replace them with God’s love and grace. At a subconscious level, I created a “New Me.”

Through the experience of calamities, I changed my responses to his abuse. I learned to not react from fear, but respond in love. This brought wisdom and understanding. I found that releasing the past and moving into the moment or the essence of God, was reality. Applying healthy tools for living and communication in relationships brought a happier life.

As I pray, love, and send forgiveness to others, I heal those relationships of abuse. This twist returns healthy relations. As I become a channel of God’s love, I move into a higher consciousness of serenity and peace. No longer do I react off the buttons of the past and relive those unpleasant times. Fear of the future is replaced with seeing life as an adventure where the universe protects and cares for me.

Finally, responding with love for others and myself can produce the life of grace I desperately sought. It took twenty-eight years learning consistently to stay in the “Now” of my life with joy and gratitude. My reward is having attracted a 13-year relationship of unconditional love with a spiritual fellow. There is no other part. It is all God; it is all good. The presence of God has become the most important part of my life.  

Marilyn Redmond, BA, CHT, IBRT, International Board Certified Regressionist, Holistic Counselor, international consultant, international Speaker, and is an award winning international writer. She shares spiritual information for life and living in health, healing, and happiness. She was inducted into Who’s Who for Professionals and Executives for her innovation and pioneering work in restoring traumatic lives, healing emotional causes of illness and releasing negative energy. Marilyn’s blog is at http://www.daybook.com/profiles/blog/list?user=37bzua8kvxwa7.

Her first book, “Roses Have Thorns”, chronicles her experience through childhood and marriage domestic violence. It is available at amazon.com/author/marilynredmond, along with her other E-books. In addition, visit her web site is angelicasgifts.com  where you will find videos about domestic violence, empowerment, articles, and more. In addition, her many videos including domestic violence and empowerment are on You Tube, http://www.youtube.com/user/puyallup98372/videos

 

The Writer’s Journey Is the Hero’s Journey - by Tamara Linse

I don’t know about you, but life just seems to pass me by sometimes. I have my head down, and I’m focused on my to do list. I’m lost in the minutia of my day-to-day existence. I have PTA and basketball practice for my son and voice lessons for my daughter and going to lunch with my husband and then there’s breakfast and supper and my mom needs help with her computer. Even as I chip away at my list, it seems to grow. Most of my time, I don’t think of myself as the hero in my own story. Being a hero implies taking charge of your life, having a life-shattering goal, facing obstacles and overcoming them, and eventually achieving success. My life often seems like a never-ending sisyphian labor. No forward movement, no end in sight. But what if that wasn’t so. What if I saw my life as the hero’s journey?


I’ll get back to that... A quote: “Every character in a narrative is the hero of her or his own story.” Not sure where I saw it. This is something writers know, and it’s the secret to having well-rounded characters. You have to think of each character as a person with his or her own motives, and you have to make sure to incorporate the subtext that comes from those hero journeys. For example, your main character, your heroine, is fighting cancer, but this guy she met in a bar just wants a meaningful overnight relationship. Her journey is fighting cancer, but his journey ~ equally valid, though not so earth-shaking ~ is to seduce her. Imagine their conversation. Imagine how she might like his transparency and the quickness of his wit. She might be reminded of what’s good in life. He’ll know that she’s sad about something, but because his mother had depression when he was a child it will spark something deeper within him that prompts him to want to save her. And on it goes. They both have their journeys.


What we do as writers is make meaning. We take the messy stuff of lived experience and shape it into a coherent whole, an aesthetic object. Narrative is attractive to us all as human beings specifically because our lives feel so meaningless, so overwhelming, and writers provide that. Writers provide closure where there is none. This is the more accurate quote from John Barth: “Everyone is necessarily the hero of his own life story.”


This is something slightly different from the quote above. This is about real people living their lives. They are necessarily the heroes of their own stories. No one else might care, but to each person, her or his life is of the utmost importance. Writers are no different. We are on a journey that involves using language to mirror and shape the world. Each story or each novel is a goal, and we overcome setbacks and grimly stumble forward to achieve the creation of this thing, this work of art.


These stories or novels string together in a never-ending pursuit of something larger than ourselves. It has all the trappings of a hero’s journey. (Let me be clear: writers are not inherently what you would call “heroes” ~ though you could say they’re “my heroes.” They create the myths of heroes. Heroes are people who risk and sometimes lose their lives for the sake or other.)


  I think it’s helpful for writers to think of themselves as pursuing a hero’s journey. It gives them a sense of purpose, a narrative for their lives that might otherwise feel mired in minutia. When framed in this way, they might be more productive, each novel a step on the way to a larger career. It’s like that old conceit of many fantasy novels ~ the hero travels in time and sees himself doing something, and because he sees himself do it he knows he can. Harry Potter calling his patronus is an example of this.


I think if we as writers see ourselves on a hero’s journey, in some strange way we’re destined to write and therefore writing is easier. We know we can do it because it’s in our destiny. For me and for many writers (I would suspect), it is helpful to think of your life as a hero’s journey. Forget the minutia. You can make boundaries around your writing time because this is your fate, your goal, the way you’re going to save the world. It’s not about you being selfish. It’s about this aesthetic object, this work of art, that has to come into being, and only you can do it. (There are these books that have moved me, have rocked me to the core. If I can do that for just one person, it’s worth it. That’s my goal, my mission, my raison d’etre.) To be a writer requires an uneasy truce between utter humility and utter hubris. If you aren’t open and humble, your work suffers, but if you don’t believe you have something to offer the world, you’ll never get the work done. So do it: imagine your destiny. You are a writer.

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Darlene Green on Stalking

“When someone “shows” you who they are, believe them!”

—Maya Angelou

What is Stalking?

Let’s talk a bit more about stalking behavior, and how dangerous it can be. If a guy is simply showing up at your home or office, he is just exhibiting to you how much he likes you right? WRONG, if he is uninvited and he is doing this often, and you have asked him nicely not to, this is not a show of affection this is stalking.

How common is Stalking?

The National Violence Against Women Survey (NVAW) in a landmark study that collected information about stalking, a nationally representative sample of 8,000 women and 8,000 men across the United States. The survey found that 8% of women and 2% of men have been stalked at some time during their lives. This means that 1 out of every 12 women and 1 out of every 45 men have been stalked at some time during their lives.

This same study shows that the majority of women who are stalked by current or former intimate partners also report having been physically assaulted by these partners and a sizable percentage (1/3) also report having been sexually assaulted by the same partners who stalked them. These important findings suggest that contrary to popular notions about who gets stalked, currently or formerly battered women have the greatest risk of being stalked.

Although the behavior might encourage us to think otherwise,   motivation for stalking is not primarily sexual, but is more likely to include anger and hostility towards the victim, often stemming from actual or perceived rejection of the stalker by the victim.  Erroneously, victims perceive control and obsessional behavior as primary motives of the stalker.

Raymond believed he loved my aunt and that his attention was supposed to help to show her that (in his fantasy) she loved and wanted him also, in spite of their agreement about not being serious, in other words; in his mind she was just saying that she didn’t want a serious relationship with him, she didn’t really mean it. He was helping her come clean about her feelings! And her continuing to deny her feelings only angered him because he saw her as being difficult, and when she ended the relationship he saw this as a betrayal of their true love and her real feelings for him. In his mind she wanted him as much as he wanted her, and his objective was to prove to her that she did!

Different Types of Stalking

Rejected stalking- arises in the context of the breakdown of a close relationship. Victims are usually former sexual intimates; however family members, close friends, or others with a very close relationship to the stalker can also become targets of Rejected stalking.

The initial motivation of a Rejected stalker is either attempting to reconcile the relationship, or to exacting revenge for a perceived rejection. In many cases, Rejected stalkers present themselves as ambivalent about the victim and sometimes appear to want the relationship back, while at other times they are clearly angry and want revenge on the victim.

Intimacy Seeking stalking arises out of a context of loneliness and a lack of a close confidante. Victims are usually strangers or acquaintances who become the target of the stalker’s desire for a relationship.

Frequently Intimacy Seeking stalkers’ behavior is fueled by a severe mental illness involving delusional beliefs about the victim, such as the belief that they are already in a relationship, even though none exists (Erotomanic delusions- a type of delusional disorder in which the subject harbors a delusion that a particular person is deeply in love with them...).

The initial motivation is to establish an emotional connection and an intimate relationship. The stalking is maintained by the gratification that comes from the belief that they are closely linked to another person

The Incompetent Suitor stalks in the context of loneliness or lust and targets strangers or acquaintances. Unlike the Intimacy Seeker, however, their initial motivation is not to establish a loving relationship, but to get a date or a short term sexual relationship. Incompetent Suitors usually stalk for brief periods, but when they do persist; their behavior is usually maintained by the fact that they are blind or indifferent to the distress of victim. Sometimes this insensitivity is associated with cognitive limitations or poor social skills consequent to autism spectrum disorders or intellectual disability.

Predatory stalking arises in the context of deviant sexual practices and interests. Perpetrators are usually male and victims are usually female strangers with whom the stalker develops a sexual interest. The stalking behavior is usually initiated as a way of obtaining sexual gratification (e.g., voyeurism targeting a single victim over time), but can also be used as a way of obtaining information about the victim as a precursor to a sexual assault. In this sense, the stalking is both instrumental and also gratifying. For those stalkers who enjoy the sense of power and control that comes from targeting the usually unsuspecting victim.

Resentful stalking arises when the stalker feels as though they have been mistreated or that they are the victim of some form of injustice or humiliation. Victims are strangers or acquaintances who are seen to have mistreated the stalker. Resentful stalking can arise out of a severe mental illness when the perpetrator develops paranoid beliefs about the victim and uses stalking as a way of ‘getting back’ at the victim.

The initial motivation for stalking is the desire for revenge or to “even the score” and the stalking is maintained by the sense of power and control that the stalker derives from inducing fear in the victim. Often Resentful stalkers present themselves as a victim who is justified in using stalking to fight back against an oppressing person or organization.

Although there is no “one size fits all” list of recommendations that will be applicable to all stalking situations, there are four Golden Rules that should be followed if you find yourself the victim of stalking;

1.            Have No contact with the stalker

2.            Tell others

3.            Increase Personal protection

4.            Collect evidence

After the stalker has been told by the victim in a calm, clear and firm manner that their attention is unwanted and that they are to stop all contact, the victim, their family and friends should have no further contact with the stalker.

Stalkers want a reaction whether it’s positive or Negative; it is crucial to ensure that everyone involved understands the importance of not appealing to the stalker to stop. The Police should be the only ones to confront the stalker.  (Mullen, 2009)

All states and the Federal Government have passed anti-stalking legislation. Definitions of stalking found in state anti-stalking statutes vary in their language, although most define stalking as “the willful, malicious, and repeated following and harassing of another person that threatens his or her safety”.